I have been recuperating from 3 days of mourning, memorial services and funerals. It takes a lot out of me and watching families go through the "Mom/Dad wanted me to have this or that" is so painful. I'm always bothered when families act like vultures and essentially reduced their loved ones' life to nothing more than what the person acquired throughout his or her life. Perhaps that's why I've chosen estate and elder law as my legal specialty. I really want to understand these issues so that I can help families avoid this pecking order.
I managed to get through singing at the memorial services relatively well, but the voice broke quite a bit at the end of the songs when I made eye contact with the families. That's OK; I think they'll forgive me.
I first read this poem many years ago in Ann Landers' column and I still hold it close to my heart and follow its fervent wish daily.
If your heart ever has need to show, then show me now, While I can know